You Had Sex With Someone...

Ancient History · Post by **Ancient History** » Tue Jul 12, 2011 10:50 pm

...and you find out some time later they died. Would you feel obligated to attend their funeral?

3278 · Post by **3278** » Tue Jul 12, 2011 11:28 pm

Some girl I had a one-night stand with 20 years ago, almost certainly not. A girl I loved deeply, with whom I was in a long-term relationship for many years, almost certainly. Everything in-between would have to be judged on the merits of the specific situation for me.

UncleJoseph · Post by **UncleJoseph** » Wed Jul 13, 2011 1:30 am

This happened to me. I had a FWB from years past. She got cancer and died in 2007. Because I had moved on, gotten married and broken off contact with her sometime prior to 2007, I didn't even know about her death until about 2009. When I found out, I was very saddened, and it struck a pretty deep chord in me. Although she was only a FWB from my past, I felt some loss about the situation. I would've attended her funeral if I had known about it.

Iantha · Post by **Iantha** » Wed Jul 13, 2011 2:23 am

Yeah, I agree that it depends on the emotional attachment.

Crazy Elf · Post by **Crazy Elf** » Wed Jul 13, 2011 2:33 am

Is the reason they're dead because you fucked them? If so I think turning up would be inappropriate.

Jeff Hauze · Post by **Jeff Hauze** » Wed Jul 13, 2011 4:13 am

Crazy Elf wrote:Is the reason they're dead because you fucked them? If so I think turning up would be inappropriate.

Also, hilarious.

Ancient History · Post by **Ancient History** » Wed Jul 13, 2011 11:16 am

Always trust the Elf to bring the doomcock.

AtemHutlrt · Post by **AtemHutlrt** » Wed Jul 13, 2011 6:25 pm

Ha! Yeah, no. Sure,maybe I would, but, for me, this question isn't fundamentally different from "Would you go to the funeral of a former acquaintance?" Sometimes I would, sometimes I wouldn't [most of the time I wouldn't], and the "sex" aspect doesn't change things in any meaningful way. Maybe that sounds harsh, but I don't feel it is, and I suspect it's the dominant opinion. Some people I've had sex with, I just don't care very deeply about, though some I do. In some cases, I think it would actually be crass and inappropriate to go to the funeral.

Bonefish · Post by **Bonefish** » Wed Jul 13, 2011 7:47 pm

It's iffy. My first, I'd probably show up at her funeral, just because i've got a long history with her, and I'd like to pay respects. Some others, probably not so much.

3278 · Post by **3278** » Thu Jul 14, 2011 5:27 pm

Ultimately, whether or not you go should have very little to do with your relationship with the deceased, and everything to do with the needs of the family and close friends of the deceased. The funeral isn't about you, and it's not about the dead person: it's about the truly grieving. If that's you, go; if it's not, don't go for their sake: they're dead, and couldn't possibly care less about what you're doing.

Bonefish · Post by **Bonefish** » Fri Jul 15, 2011 3:54 am

3278 wrote:Ultimately, whether or not you go should have very little to do with your relationship with the deceased, and everything to do with the needs of the family and close friends of the deceased. The funeral isn't about you, and it's not about the dead person: it's about the truly grieving. If that's you, go; if it's not, don't go for their sake: they're dead, and couldn't possibly care less about what you're doing.

Yeah, I agree. In the case of Amber(Pyscho Bitch #1), after a 7 or 8 year on and off "relationship", I'm sort of emotionally attached: I do love her, in a fashion. Not in the sense that I would have a romantic relationship with her again, but she does sorta consider me the "father" of her son, and I would have to pay my respects to her.

In the case of Jess(Pyscho Herpes Bitch) and Michelle(Alleged Baby Momma/Aka Pycho Bitch #2), I'm split. I'm friendly enough with Jess's parents that I would want to offer them my emotional support, while in Michelles case, I wouldn't go: her parents hate me, and there's no reason for me to be there.

Nicephorus · Post by **Nicephorus** » Fri Jul 15, 2011 10:10 am

3278 wrote:Ultimately, whether or not you go should have very little to do with your relationship with the deceased, and everything to do with the needs of the family and close friends of the deceased. The funeral isn't about you, and it's not about the dead person: it's about the truly grieving. If that's you, go; if it's not, don't go for their sake: they're dead, and couldn't possibly care less about what you're doing.

But what if you wanted to have sex with them one last time?

3278 · Post by **3278** » Fri Jul 15, 2011 12:07 pm

Well, I think then you probably want to arrange a private viewing. I've found funeral directors to be most cooperative in this endeavor.

Bonefish · Post by **Bonefish** » Sat Jul 16, 2011 8:51 pm

You people are fucked up.

Cash · Post by **Cash** » Wed Jul 20, 2011 11:25 pm

Make sure to tip extra for the heated electric blankets before you start...unless cold and lying there was how she was like in life.

Only if I knew the family or friends. Otherwise, I can always visit the grave at a later time.