Things about you you don't like

Angel · Post by **Angel** » Sun May 06, 2007 6:50 pm

Is it normal to have something about yourself that you don't care for?

My "thing(s)" would be:

1. When I was in a heterosexual relationship (boy/girl) several years ago, I let myself care enough for him that I didn't let his abusiveness get to me enough to end it quicker. It ended when he ended the relationship by finally becoming physically abusive, how did I ever let it go so far? I hate this about myself, it still bothers me today.

2. I actually jeopardized my health by being stupid enough to lead a lifestyle that made me literally forget to eat, really. I wasted so many potentially healthy days of my life being dumb and not caring for myself properly. Now it's also someone that bothers me, I'm not sure if it's self-hatred or just a big dose of regret that I didn't wise-up sooner.

lordhellion · Post by **lordhellion** » Sun May 06, 2007 7:03 pm

I'd like to have more ambition than I do. As is, I really care fuck all about the future, which is sad when there's so much I could potentially accomplish if I'd get off my dead ass.

Johnny the Bull · Post by **Johnny the Bull** » Sun May 06, 2007 8:17 pm

I'm too fucking neurotic and obsessed with money to the detriment of other, probably more important aspects of my life.

MissTeja · Post by **MissTeja** » Sun May 06, 2007 10:45 pm

I worry too much, yet in the same token, am sometimes optimistic to a flaw. Makes me crazy.

Crazy Elf · Post by **Crazy Elf** » Mon May 07, 2007 4:21 am

I hold onto grudges.

I have trouble associating with people that I believe are below me, which is pretty much everyone.

I'm very arrogant.

I'm manipulative.

I'm a terrible speller.

I read really slowly.

I procrastinate far too much.

Girls drool over my body, but never within sight so I never get laid.

I end up controlling whomever I'm in a relationship with.

I have to be the best at things that I do. I can't accept second best.

I have to be better than everyone.

I'm probably much more insecure than I feel.

I'm far too proud.

I'm very anti-social.

I can't lie to people I respect, and as such will never be with Deadpan Girl.

I could go on.

jo_alex · Post by **jo_alex** » Mon May 07, 2007 8:37 am

I tend to judge everyone else by my own standards and the worst part is till someone points it out to me, I don't even notice I'm doing it. Since I often see the world black and white, I'm not the most lenient of judges. Makes me intolerant and too critical. Makes my expectations to be rarely met. But what I don't like most about myself is that I'm much softer and insecure that I pretend I am, meaning I'm way easier to hurt.

Kitt · Post by **Kitt** » Mon May 07, 2007 1:58 pm

I'm belligerent, pigheaded, stubborn, and make poor decisions. (EX: I'm broken, but I insist upon auditioning for West Side Story because it's my favorite show in the world.)

I'm extremely self-involved. I don't care about anyone else's opinon of what I'm doing, especially if it goes against my own.

I'm easily angered. (Read: I get pissed off if someone isn't paying attention and doesn't catch the green light as soon as it turns.)

Serious Paul · Post by **Serious Paul** » Mon May 07, 2007 3:05 pm

Man my list could easily turn into a debacle, so needless to say some days I'm not so pleased with me. But I always try to recall that in spite of everything I'm angered or upset about that I can continue, that I can over come.

Instant Cash · Post by **Instant Cash** » Mon May 07, 2007 6:31 pm

Some of the things off the top of my head...

I am a huge procrastinator.

I am horrible with Money

I am out of shape (working on this)

I have no idea where I want my career to go

I do not debate well

and I am sure there are many more. Really the main thing that I /do/ have going for my is my optomisum and general friendliness towards other people.

Cash · Post by **Cash** » Tue May 08, 2007 1:10 am

I'm a huge procrastinator as well.

I'm paranoid with money...I never think I have enough to be ok.

I'm out of shape (working on this).

I'm stubborn as a mule.

I'm extremely competitive.

I tend to be closed off/hidden. I'm not sure how to explained this, but I tend to only let people see what's immediately on the surface/what's going on.

I can be insecure (really not a problem, I just mentally give myself a kick in the pants and realize that I'm looking at the situation wrong.)

TLM · Post by **TLM** » Tue May 08, 2007 1:18 am

I procrastinate like it was my job.

I argue a point long after I should've conceded to being wrong.

I jump to conclusions.

I voice opinions as fact and in the heat of the moment, rather than doing what I should and think about it.

I have an odd relationship with money. I do not care nearly enough about it, much to my detriment.

I seek the approval of others far, far too much.

I have severe mood-swings. All nice and happy and confident one day, all gloom and doom and worthlessness the next.

Liniah · Post by **Liniah** » Tue May 08, 2007 9:51 am

I tend to attribute human emotions to inanimate objects. It makes me somewhat neurotic.

Ampere · Post by **Ampere** » Tue May 08, 2007 12:57 pm

I don't really dislike myself at all. If this is about current things, then I'd say that I'm doing okay. If it's about things in the past...then man, I have a truckload of things I don't like.

Thing is, I like to consider myself a work-in-progress. Not by any means perfect (certainly not) but I do the best I can at any given time, which is all I could ask of anyone. Sometimes I get lazy and then I unfuck myself and get back on track.

Don't have any self-loathing really. What I've done in the past is done. Can't change it, but I can make a note to not do that again. I don't beat myself up over things (well...too much). Anything I don't care for in myself, if it is something I can change (like the spare tire here) is being worked on already, so it's okay.

I don't know if this is considered conceit or arrogance, or whatever.

I just tend to not worry about a lot of things. Self-loathing...I don't have time for it. Just do the best you can and keep moving forward.

Crazy Elf · Post by **Crazy Elf** » Tue May 08, 2007 1:16 pm

Liniah wrote:I tend to attribute human emotions to inanimate objects. It makes me somewhat neurotic.

It would also make you somewhat Japanese. There's a huge trend within Japan to attribute personality to inanimate objects. Cars sell much better when the grill and headlights form a happy face in the country. Many European cars had a grill that made the car look angry, and it didn't gel so well with the Japanese public.

So, you're not completely neurotic.

Jeff Hauze · Post by **Jeff Hauze** » Tue May 08, 2007 1:19 pm

I swear, if she comes back from Denmark and likes ugly white cats with bowties and stupid yellow rat-dogs, I'm bombing the fuck out of Europe.

Liniah · Post by **Liniah** » Tue May 08, 2007 1:20 pm

It makes me neurotic, though. It's a large part of why I have trouble thowing things out. It doesn't matter how the thing looks to me. For example, I even have trouble throwing out an old toothbrush because I don't want to hurt its feelings. Neurotic.